Guides
Guides for families
Plain explanations of the parts of marriage families ask about most. Faith and law guides cite their sources and say clearly when an independent review is still pending.
Biodata
Family
For parents: finding a match for your son or daughter online, safely
A guide for Bengali Muslim parents searching online for a match for their son or daughter: why public Facebook posts are risky, what "verified" should mean, spotting fake profiles, and keeping your child’s final say.
The first family meeting (meye dekha): etiquette and questions to ask
How to make the first family meeting (meye dekha or chele dekha) dignified for everyone: the Sunnah of seeing each other, who comes, what to ask, what never to ask, and how to say no kindly.
Questions to ask before marriage, for both of you
The questions Bengali Muslim couples should ask each other before marriage: faith, where you will live, in-laws, money and mahr, children, moving abroad, health (including thalassaemia), and handling conflict.
Involving your parents in your search, respectfully
How to talk to Bengali parents about marriage: knowing what you want, starting the conversation, introducing someone you met yourself, handling disagreement, and keeping your final say kindly.
Remarriage after divorce or widowhood: a respectful guide
For divorced and widowed Bengali Muslims thinking about marrying again: you are not alone, iddah basics with Qur’an references, telling your story, children first, privacy, legal checks and red flags.
Sylheti families and diaspora marriage: bridging generations
For British Sylheti families and their children: three languages in one home, what parents and second-generation singles each hope for, UK–Sylhet matches and visa realities, and the marriage CV in two languages.
Faith
Denmohor (mahr): meaning, types and how families decide
What denmohor (mahr) means in Islam, prompt and deferred mahr, how Bengali families agree an amount, why it is the bride’s right — and how it differs from dowry, which is a crime in Bangladesh.
The wali (guardian) in a Bengali Muslim marriage
What a wali is, the hadith on guardianship and on a woman’s consent, how the schools of thought differ, who can be a wali for a revert, and how KobulKabin’s guardian mode keeps the member’s final say.
Istikhara for marriage: what it is, and what it isn’t
Istikhara before marriage: the hadith it comes from, how the prayer is done, the meaning of the du’a in plain English, and common misconceptions — no dream or sign is required.
Reverts marrying into a Bengali family: what to expect
For reverts to Islam marrying into a Bengali Muslim family: what family life is like, finding a wali, involving non-Muslim parents with respect, a glossary of Bengali wedding customs, and the red flags.
Law and paperwork
The kabin-nama (nikah-nama) explained, section by section
What the Bangladeshi kabin-nama (nikah-nama) is, why registration matters, what each part records — mahr, delegated divorce, previous marriages — and a checklist for families.
Is a nikah legal in the UK? How to register your marriage
A nikah on its own is usually not a legal marriage in England and Wales. What the Akhter v Khan case decided, why it matters, and the three ways Bengali families make a marriage legal.
Safety
14 guides, each in English and Bangla.